Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's learning to dance in the rain.
That phrase has always stuck in my mind and more recently I have been reminded of it more and more. There are a great deal of changes happening in the world and most people are aware of it on one level or another. Some people are having huge challenges, others huge successes; for those of us in the middle there is a carcophony of ups downs and gaps in the middle!
I love to listen to how people say things rather than what they actually say. It can be amazing how someone's mood can affect the slant they put on something and deem it 'good' or 'bad'. This can prove a little tricky though when things do go wrong, as it's easy to slip into negative language which makes our mood worse. I am not a scientist, but recently I heard that there is evidence that a positive thought jumps the gap or synapse in the brain to string thoughts together, whereas negative thoughts don't. So if you are feeling down in the dumps this explains why you also can't think clearly!
My advice when life is a whirlwind or particularly challenging is to stop. Completely. We all try to struggle on or work harder, longer but just for a minute or two stop. Then observe: your breathing, how you are standing, whether your muscles are loose and relaxed or tight and hunched. Look in the mirror - do you look happy or are you frowning? All this information will give you a really clear view of whether you are in a happy place or whether you are ready to run from a dinosaur!
From this point we can then choose what to do next. If life has sneaked up on you and you have fallen into negativity it's easy to reverse the process. I usually start with cake, but that could just be me! Next I try to get some fresh air and then think of some phrases with a positive slant that describe in a funny way whatever is 'bad'. Sometimes I even allow myself to have a bad day, but promise that when I wake up the day will be 'good'. However you phrase it and what you choose to do, just make sure that you also keep a list of the amazing things that are also happening - even if it's that the sun rose that morning!
Monday, 5 October 2009
Sunday, 30 August 2009
Can one day really change your life?
If you had asked me that question a while ago, I have to say I would have had my doubts. I am a positive thinker and an optimist, but also a bit of a sceptic. That may be a strange thing for a Psychic Medium to say, but I am always looking for some proof before I will believe in anything.
About a year ago, I set up an event in Bristol and invited along some speakers. I wanted the people that had inspired me and so invited Barefoot Doctor, Neil Fellowes and Leo Hawkins - 3 people who had given me lightbulb moments in my life. Deb Hawken and I always give our talk as we passionately believe that everyone is capable of tuning into their own intuition and using that strength to make the most of life.
There was a great atmosphere on the day and a buzz as everyone enjoyed each talk and then shared their thoughts over coffee. The day was a part of The Love Life! Roadshow so we also had a room full of exhibitors, so I didn't get a chance to listen to the other talks or notice what went on...I could only gauge the responses by how many smiling faces were around!
8 weeks later the excitement of the event had receded and Deb and I met up with one of our visitors...and the change was amazing! This lady had come along to the day feeling beaten by life - wanting a change in her job, her relationships and her social life. The lady that now stood before me seemed 6 feet tall, she was dressed amazingly, was smiling and radiant and couldn't wait to tell us how different life was. She said that all the talks had helped her immensely, in particular Neil Fellowes with his 3 step 'Design a Life' plan. In the following weeks she had negotiated a better working environment and had started going out. She was full of her plans, smiles and laughter.
The next day like this is at Bailbrook House Hotel in Bath on the 12th September, purely seminars but with all the refreshments and lunch included. When I posted this event on Facebook I very quickly got a message back from this lady, and I quote: "You inspired me to change my life - look what happened ;-0 and now I am enjoying it too much to want it to change again - good luck with the event x". She now has a new job to look forward to after sending her request to a local college and she is just celebrating her engagement too, so congratulations - you know who you are!
Every decision, every step, every change has to be made by one person - you. No-one can magically come along and change everything for you. What amazes me is how we can adapt our view of life if the circumstances are right. Sometimes what precedes this is a period of negative events, a life change or ill health or just the feeling that something needs to change...a stirring in the breeze or frustration and impatience!
However life leads you to a decision point, by listening to opinions and having the time to distill the information, amazing changes really can happen. Overnight miracles may not occur but small changes and a flurry of coincidences can lead you onto a different path, or just remind you of how happy you are.
So in answer to my initial question - yes it can!
For more details of the speakers and our upcoming event go to: www.holisticinsights.co.uk/events_love_life_roadshow_sept_09.htm.
About a year ago, I set up an event in Bristol and invited along some speakers. I wanted the people that had inspired me and so invited Barefoot Doctor, Neil Fellowes and Leo Hawkins - 3 people who had given me lightbulb moments in my life. Deb Hawken and I always give our talk as we passionately believe that everyone is capable of tuning into their own intuition and using that strength to make the most of life.
There was a great atmosphere on the day and a buzz as everyone enjoyed each talk and then shared their thoughts over coffee. The day was a part of The Love Life! Roadshow so we also had a room full of exhibitors, so I didn't get a chance to listen to the other talks or notice what went on...I could only gauge the responses by how many smiling faces were around!
8 weeks later the excitement of the event had receded and Deb and I met up with one of our visitors...and the change was amazing! This lady had come along to the day feeling beaten by life - wanting a change in her job, her relationships and her social life. The lady that now stood before me seemed 6 feet tall, she was dressed amazingly, was smiling and radiant and couldn't wait to tell us how different life was. She said that all the talks had helped her immensely, in particular Neil Fellowes with his 3 step 'Design a Life' plan. In the following weeks she had negotiated a better working environment and had started going out. She was full of her plans, smiles and laughter.
The next day like this is at Bailbrook House Hotel in Bath on the 12th September, purely seminars but with all the refreshments and lunch included. When I posted this event on Facebook I very quickly got a message back from this lady, and I quote: "You inspired me to change my life - look what happened ;-0 and now I am enjoying it too much to want it to change again - good luck with the event x". She now has a new job to look forward to after sending her request to a local college and she is just celebrating her engagement too, so congratulations - you know who you are!
Every decision, every step, every change has to be made by one person - you. No-one can magically come along and change everything for you. What amazes me is how we can adapt our view of life if the circumstances are right. Sometimes what precedes this is a period of negative events, a life change or ill health or just the feeling that something needs to change...a stirring in the breeze or frustration and impatience!
However life leads you to a decision point, by listening to opinions and having the time to distill the information, amazing changes really can happen. Overnight miracles may not occur but small changes and a flurry of coincidences can lead you onto a different path, or just remind you of how happy you are.
So in answer to my initial question - yes it can!
For more details of the speakers and our upcoming event go to: www.holisticinsights.co.uk/events_love_life_roadshow_sept_09.htm.
Tuesday, 14 July 2009
Do You Love Life?
Do You Love Life?
Now that’s a good question! How many of us can truly say yes to this unconditionally without a part of us saying no. For me a tragic circumstance, a debilitating condition and a lack of support in my relationship ten years ago had meant that I would have said no, in fact I had switched off. Not from day to day living you understand, not from loving my children or running my world, but the inner me that was supposed to be having fun – I just wasn’t!
But something kept stirring. You know, that nagging inner voice that insisted there was more to it, that there was a way of rising above all this and finding the answer that was needed, somehow. I had always been an eternal optimist and even though life was tough I believed that something would happen. It did.
I suppose I’m like a lot of people and had always been drawn to reading ‘spiritual’ publications and had heard of ‘synchronicity’. I had looked at the images of these serene, happy, healthy looking people who meditated, but failed to see what that could possibly do with me? I had the school run, packed lunches, a dog to walk, a job to get to and a house that seemed to muddle itself! How was I possibly going to ever have the time or space to sit and contemplate my navel until I found the secret that these people in magazines obviously knew.
But sometimes something just gets your attention, a sequence of events that spark a thought and give you a nudge to do something you wouldn’t. Mine was several chance meetings with someone I was at school with, who later went to the same gym on the same day as me. Finally our daughters ended up starting school in the same class on the same day, so when I heard this lady also read tarot that was it – the appointment was made!
What happened at this meeting was the opening of a door. After a genuine and accurate reading that really helped me get my situation clear in my own mind, she calmly asked why I wasn’t reading the tarot too? Me, with all my rushing around who worked part time in a bank? Me, who was sat there needing all the advice I could soak up. Apparently so…
Now, most people reading this article may ask what relevance this has to them and what does this story have to do with my initial question, do you love life? Unless of course, there has always been within you a burning ambition to read tarot! What our weekly sessions accomplished was to create space – space to tune into that real me, space to connect with that higher energy that is referred to as many things, that I call ‘The Universe’. Over several weeks I had a general introduction to Spirit, to guides there to help us when we need them and I learned to trust my intuition. I learned about my own energy and how to protect it. I learned how to open myself up to picking up information intuitively – and then the tricky bit of remembering to close it down again. We only met for a couple of months but that was just the start I needed.
This was the point where the real test began. It’s all very well being serene and tuned in when you are sat in silence in someone else’s living room, but to draw it into your every day chaos? It wasn’t easy at first, but little things started to change. I had always hated winter and hid myself away under jumpers and blankets, but now I was looking at the world around me and seeing the beautiful, clear blue skies on frosty days and the calm and rejuvenation that seemed to be taking place. I noticed the first snowdrops appearing and everything seemed to be more full of colour than it had before; was it my imagination? I started to laugh along with my children and allow myself to drive through puddles on the school run and not to tense up when that cookie mix that glues itself to everything was picked up in the supermarket!
Like I say, little changes.
Other things started to change too. When I decided to learn Reiki I saw adverts in every shop window. When I thought about a friend who I hadn’t heard from in ages then suddenly they would ring. Little synchronicities started to sneak in that just made life a little easier somehow. I would still have bad days when things went wrong from start to finish. I had some exceptionally difficult and challenging times in my life when I really had to work at it! Generally though, my ability to laugh at things quicker, not over-react in the first place and give myself a break before judging harshly became greater. I began to look at the larger picture of my life and to notice when I was learning something. I also noticed the people around me who had always been there but instinctively said or did something to help me on my way. I also tried to do or say the right thing when others were suffering, not to sympathise but to empathise. Knowing the difference was a big learning curve for me too, not wanting to make it all go away but to know that other person was learning something on their life path and maybe they just wanted me to hold their hand or be on the end of the phone.
So these days life isn’t perfect or serene and I haven’t quite morphed into the picture from that magazine. Every day brings its own unique set of highs and lows that I now appreciate and sometimes snigger at. Its exciting that I have a journey in front of me and haven’t learned it all already. Do I love life? Oh yes!
Now that’s a good question! How many of us can truly say yes to this unconditionally without a part of us saying no. For me a tragic circumstance, a debilitating condition and a lack of support in my relationship ten years ago had meant that I would have said no, in fact I had switched off. Not from day to day living you understand, not from loving my children or running my world, but the inner me that was supposed to be having fun – I just wasn’t!
But something kept stirring. You know, that nagging inner voice that insisted there was more to it, that there was a way of rising above all this and finding the answer that was needed, somehow. I had always been an eternal optimist and even though life was tough I believed that something would happen. It did.
I suppose I’m like a lot of people and had always been drawn to reading ‘spiritual’ publications and had heard of ‘synchronicity’. I had looked at the images of these serene, happy, healthy looking people who meditated, but failed to see what that could possibly do with me? I had the school run, packed lunches, a dog to walk, a job to get to and a house that seemed to muddle itself! How was I possibly going to ever have the time or space to sit and contemplate my navel until I found the secret that these people in magazines obviously knew.
But sometimes something just gets your attention, a sequence of events that spark a thought and give you a nudge to do something you wouldn’t. Mine was several chance meetings with someone I was at school with, who later went to the same gym on the same day as me. Finally our daughters ended up starting school in the same class on the same day, so when I heard this lady also read tarot that was it – the appointment was made!
What happened at this meeting was the opening of a door. After a genuine and accurate reading that really helped me get my situation clear in my own mind, she calmly asked why I wasn’t reading the tarot too? Me, with all my rushing around who worked part time in a bank? Me, who was sat there needing all the advice I could soak up. Apparently so…
Now, most people reading this article may ask what relevance this has to them and what does this story have to do with my initial question, do you love life? Unless of course, there has always been within you a burning ambition to read tarot! What our weekly sessions accomplished was to create space – space to tune into that real me, space to connect with that higher energy that is referred to as many things, that I call ‘The Universe’. Over several weeks I had a general introduction to Spirit, to guides there to help us when we need them and I learned to trust my intuition. I learned about my own energy and how to protect it. I learned how to open myself up to picking up information intuitively – and then the tricky bit of remembering to close it down again. We only met for a couple of months but that was just the start I needed.
This was the point where the real test began. It’s all very well being serene and tuned in when you are sat in silence in someone else’s living room, but to draw it into your every day chaos? It wasn’t easy at first, but little things started to change. I had always hated winter and hid myself away under jumpers and blankets, but now I was looking at the world around me and seeing the beautiful, clear blue skies on frosty days and the calm and rejuvenation that seemed to be taking place. I noticed the first snowdrops appearing and everything seemed to be more full of colour than it had before; was it my imagination? I started to laugh along with my children and allow myself to drive through puddles on the school run and not to tense up when that cookie mix that glues itself to everything was picked up in the supermarket!
Like I say, little changes.
Other things started to change too. When I decided to learn Reiki I saw adverts in every shop window. When I thought about a friend who I hadn’t heard from in ages then suddenly they would ring. Little synchronicities started to sneak in that just made life a little easier somehow. I would still have bad days when things went wrong from start to finish. I had some exceptionally difficult and challenging times in my life when I really had to work at it! Generally though, my ability to laugh at things quicker, not over-react in the first place and give myself a break before judging harshly became greater. I began to look at the larger picture of my life and to notice when I was learning something. I also noticed the people around me who had always been there but instinctively said or did something to help me on my way. I also tried to do or say the right thing when others were suffering, not to sympathise but to empathise. Knowing the difference was a big learning curve for me too, not wanting to make it all go away but to know that other person was learning something on their life path and maybe they just wanted me to hold their hand or be on the end of the phone.
So these days life isn’t perfect or serene and I haven’t quite morphed into the picture from that magazine. Every day brings its own unique set of highs and lows that I now appreciate and sometimes snigger at. Its exciting that I have a journey in front of me and haven’t learned it all already. Do I love life? Oh yes!
Monday, 15 June 2009
Changing Times
The world seems to be a strange place to live at the moment for lots of us, myself included. I am finding lots of changes in my sleeping patterns, the things I want to eat and what I want to do. I seem to be more tired than usual, but not depressed or struggling with anything, in fact quite the opposite as some of the ideas and dreams I have had are now coming into being. The fact remains that when I wake up it feels like I haven't rested at all. I also wake in the middle of the night with a start, as if I've had a bad dream but without the dream!
I spend a lot of my time with people that I meet in Readings or Therapies, at CommunitySoul meetings and the many other events I attend. I am a people person and have a genuine interest in what people do and how they act. People I talk to seem to all be experiencing either tiredness or major changes in their lives, some completely unexpected and traumatic, some amazingly positive and life changing. There are many theories over why this is and I understand the planets are doing strange things. There are also many theories on 2012. I confess I am no expert in any of this but do believe we are being asked to live in different ways...you only have to look at our financial institutions and politicians to see that changes are happening and needed. I am hopeful of a more conscious place to live where people consider their effect on other people, the planet and outcomes before they act. Whatever belief system anyone has we are all energetic beings and if you look into someone's eyes the same spark exists there.
So what can we do when all around us is changing? Here are 3 top tips:
1. Be kind to yourself. Changes take a lot of energy and we can't expect to carry on at light speed with everything else and not feel the burn. Take extra time to do the things you do. Say no to the things you 'ought' to do or 'should' do. Allow yourself some treat time each day to take a walk, watch your favourite programme, read your favourite book or just sit and breathe. I prescribe pink socks and rose wine for this time, even for boys!
2. Only focus on the things you can do something about. Worrying about what someone else will do, or what ifs and maybes takes up even more of the energy you are trying to preserve. If something has actually happened we can deal with that. Just tell yourself that you are easily capable of dealing with anything new if and when it happens.
3. Look out for things that drain your energy without you realising. Spending time with negative, nervous or unhappy people will drain your energy unless you protect it in some way. Realise you are going into a potentially draining place and wrap a bubble or cloak around you. It doesn't matter if you can't feel it or see it, your intention will make it happen. Also if you don't have to talk to someone who will drain you - don't! Find a friend who is always bubbly and be bubbly too - or keep a stack of favourite websites or books that will also make you feel uplifted.
I have an information sheet on Psychic Protection, so if anyone hasn't read it or wants a copy for family or friends then please get in touch.
I spend a lot of my time with people that I meet in Readings or Therapies, at CommunitySoul meetings and the many other events I attend. I am a people person and have a genuine interest in what people do and how they act. People I talk to seem to all be experiencing either tiredness or major changes in their lives, some completely unexpected and traumatic, some amazingly positive and life changing. There are many theories over why this is and I understand the planets are doing strange things. There are also many theories on 2012. I confess I am no expert in any of this but do believe we are being asked to live in different ways...you only have to look at our financial institutions and politicians to see that changes are happening and needed. I am hopeful of a more conscious place to live where people consider their effect on other people, the planet and outcomes before they act. Whatever belief system anyone has we are all energetic beings and if you look into someone's eyes the same spark exists there.
So what can we do when all around us is changing? Here are 3 top tips:
1. Be kind to yourself. Changes take a lot of energy and we can't expect to carry on at light speed with everything else and not feel the burn. Take extra time to do the things you do. Say no to the things you 'ought' to do or 'should' do. Allow yourself some treat time each day to take a walk, watch your favourite programme, read your favourite book or just sit and breathe. I prescribe pink socks and rose wine for this time, even for boys!
2. Only focus on the things you can do something about. Worrying about what someone else will do, or what ifs and maybes takes up even more of the energy you are trying to preserve. If something has actually happened we can deal with that. Just tell yourself that you are easily capable of dealing with anything new if and when it happens.
3. Look out for things that drain your energy without you realising. Spending time with negative, nervous or unhappy people will drain your energy unless you protect it in some way. Realise you are going into a potentially draining place and wrap a bubble or cloak around you. It doesn't matter if you can't feel it or see it, your intention will make it happen. Also if you don't have to talk to someone who will drain you - don't! Find a friend who is always bubbly and be bubbly too - or keep a stack of favourite websites or books that will also make you feel uplifted.
I have an information sheet on Psychic Protection, so if anyone hasn't read it or wants a copy for family or friends then please get in touch.
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